All the mummies, and daddies, welcome to my blog. The reason why I made this post because I want to spread awareness about this issue (putting it mildly) and I want people to know what problems there might be, mostly mental, after pregnancy.
This is a topic quite personal for me and I would like to spread awareness about what happens or can happen to your mental health after pregnancy. This is something you CAN and you WILL get over, just give it time.
Before I start going further in this topic I would like to tell you why this is such an emotional topic for me. As a mother myself, I had to deal with – and still somewhat dealing with post partum depression. After giving birth, either “naturally” or with c section, your hormone levels drop, so I was told by my nurse.
After my emergency c section I was in a room with my son for several days. Being in one room without being able to move for a day does take its toll on one’s mind, and there is also your precious baby crying few feet away from you. It was the worst feeling. I was drained but I also had the means to take care of him which was also hard on my mind. Felt like splitting myself apart so one could sleep and rest, the other could take care of my baby. At least that was what I was feeling like doing whilst looking for the button to call a nurse.
During my hospital stay, even under hard drugs, I could not sleep without being half awake..the only time I was able to sleep was when I had my son sleeping on top of me. They told me stories about why I shouldn’t sleep with my child but I did what I thought was fit to the situation, and surprisingly nothing bad had happened.
Disclaimer: As much as I support people doing what they think is best, I would advise you to not to do this what I did in the hospital. Especially if you are the type of person who rolls around a lot or will fall asleep deeply after anaesthetics.
After leaving the hospital, I had the most miserable time of my life, which I should have enjoyed. I had college at the time as well which didn’t make things easier either but being as low as I was at the time I was really OK being without my child, which really scared me because in the first 3-6 months I didn’t know how to connect with him, and it made my depression even worse.
If you are a new mum or a mum-to-be I would like tell you what activities helped me a lot when I needed something to unwind or relax.
Sleep: As much as it sounds crazy, you do need the naps. If it makes it easier, you can take a nap when your baby takes a nap. You might not wanna hear this but your baby’s sleeping pattern will improve. You will able to sleep.
Gaming: SURPRISE! Who knew that playing games would help you with this type of problem? It might not be a magic cure for every problem you have but taking alone time will help you recover from your depression. I didn’t sleep or study when my baby was asleep I usually played video games on my Xbox. It does take your mind off of things and you don’t need to be a pro to have fun.
Arts and Crafts: I know the last thing you want to do is clean up after yourself right after crafting, but it does take your mind off of your problems and you might just be able to make a career out of it. If you are not really keen on getting a hobby you can just sleep when you have the chance.
Help: Do not be afraid to ask for help from anyone around you. Does not matter if you only ask for some time alone or for someone to do the nappy change or the groceries. After my pregnancy I needed A LOT of help from my friends and family. No matter how old or what gender you are, a couple or single. You need help and you won’t be any less of a mother or a father and it certainly doesn’t mean you don’t love your child, but it does get overwhelming and you shouldn’t feel bad for asking for help even if it is from a friend or from a professional regarding any mental illnesses you had/have prior to pregnancy.